The Woman And The Hurt Spice
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| Hilda (in white jacket) enjoys her time with her friends abroad. |
By Pepin
As from the words of Erma Bombeck, “There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt.” Yes, woman, despite being considered as the most beautiful above all creation, possesses a fragile heart.
Hilda, a 37-year old Filipino mother and wife to a chef, sees herself as a woman, who has experienced the discomfited effects of hurt and defeat. The predicaments that she has encountered in the past dwindled her self-esteem and brought her at the welcoming edge of recoil.
“It is very difficult to raise yourself when you are engulfed with problems. Often times, I just let myself experience defeat so that I can start all over again.”
Hurting is a natural process, yet people regard it as an awful-tasting medicine for kids. No one would dare to experience it, and many would find an alternative route to avoid it. But reality will not be reality without it, and no absolute escape plan can junk the process.
After all, life won’t be as delectable as it should be without the “hurt spice”. Even the greatest women of history were all products of abrasions that remain imperishable.
Defeat is rough, but it leaves marks that reinforce the person.
As for Hilda, her positive outlook towards hurt and defeat shaped her to what she considers herself right now – a firm person. “I want women to remember that in every challenge, there is pain; and in every pain, there is a lesson learned. This entire experience will help mould a more mature and positive person,” she added.
When asked what would possibly hurt her at this point of time, Hilda thought deeply and found a cliché response, “Betrayed by my husband.” She hid her face with an embarrassed laugh, but she admitted that it is one of her greatest fear.
But despite the leeway, she remained optimistic. After all, her husband considers her as his strength and their love will reign supreme.
“I feel blessed because I have him. If ever there will be another major trounce in my life in the future, I already have someone beside me to help me conquer the test.”
